Plato wrote, “Courage is knowing what not to fear.” I thought of these words as I sat in the multipurpose room packed with parents and educators from our community.
My 11-year-old daughter was sitting with a panel of experts facilitating a discussion on ADHD. I could barely hold back the tears as she read a passage from our soon to be released book on our life with ADHD.
“I went back to school after I was diagnosed. One of my great friends, Davis, asked me if I had autism. I said, “no, but I do have ADHD.” Davis replied, oh good, I don’t know what that is, but I’m sure I will learn about it.” That reassured me that no one would tease me about my ADHD, and no one ever has.” Simple and honest logic from a girl who has chosen to see the gifts in her diagnosis.
When she finished reading, thunderous applause filled the room. It has taken me years of research and soul-searching to openly discuss the subject of her ADHD diagnosis. I was awestruck with her poise and courage as she shared her deepest struggles with the audience.
I began blogging about my journey parenting a family touched by ADHD last year. My hope was to educate myself about this disorder and help others in my position along the way. This led to the decision to work on a book about ADHD with my daughter.
Pickles may struggle to get out the door on time every morning. She needs extra help organizing her school work every week. But next time I need to find the courage to advocate for ADHD awareness, I don’t have to look far for a shining example of how to be strong.
What obstacle has your child overcome that has made you step back and take notice? Please share your triumph in the comments.
Instead of hammering out the worksheets from one of those Summer Bridging workbooks, my daughter and I have started working on our first Ebook. EEEK!! I’m so excited to share a glimpse with you.
About 8 months ago I started a blog to break down the stigma of ADHD. In my very first post I wrote these words, “As an idealistic college student I never imagined my life looking like this 20 years later. I wouldn’t want it any other way! I did not choose ADHD to shape the wife and mother that I’ve become. It chose me. And I have spent countless hours and maybe even days (weeks?) wondering why me, why us??? It put me into a daze but I am taking the reins now. I want to steer my family through this fog but also take the time to stop and enjoy the beautiful moments along the way.”
I wasn’t sure where this journey was going to take me. In the short time I’ve been working on this I can’t believe what I have accomplished. As I write this prologue there are currently several hundred followers that have accompanied me. In my mind that is a life I have touched. I may be spreading awareness to this person, giving them a virtual shoulder to cry on or who knows….
My ten year old daughter and I were chatting about the blog. She is the main reason I pour my heart and soul into this project. I want her to be a part of it but she’s off being an amazing 10 year old so how could I bring her in? Well here it is…this book! We had a whole summer looming in front of us and my little book worm was eager to work on this project with me.
ADHD is stereotyped in so many ways. “It’s not real.” “It only affects boys.” “Don’t worry he will outgrow it.” In the following pages you will have a chance to glimpse into the world of ADHD through the eyes of my little girl. Her real world struggles and hard earned triumphs. Of course I will chime in with a little parental perspective too.
It is our hope that sharing our story will shed some light on our journey with ADHD will continue to spread awareness. Each person with ADHD of course has their own journey but here is ours.
What do you think? Any feedback is welcome! This is a work in progress so please share with us in the comments what topics you would like to see covered.